Psychotherapist and Breath Work Facilitator
Maybe you identify as a survivor. Maybe you resonate with the following questions or statements:
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"I feel so alone."
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"No one understands me or what I've experienced."
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"I don't know what happened, how can someone believe me if I barely believe myself?"
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"No one believed me when I shared."
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"Why do I feel so anxious all the time?"
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"Why can't I trust others?"
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"I can't trust myself."
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"I can't ask for help. People will use it to hurt me."
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"I feel so disconnected from myself and/or others."
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"Boundaries are so confusing and difficult for me."
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"I don't feel safe in relationships."
Wait, how do all these connect to what you've experienced? Sexual abuse and trauma is a relational trauma and a violation of your bodily autonomy. This means you endured a physical violation as well as a violation of trust and safety. It makes sense that this impacts your relationship with you, your body, and others.
Whether this happened once long long ago, recently, or many times by the same or different individuals - you deserve a space to heal. You deserve to feel safe in your own body and relationships. Healing is possible, and I'm ready to join you on this journey.
Together, we will...
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Begin to learn the language of your nervous system and body. Sexual abuse and trauma disconnects us from ourselves so together you and I begin to understand the uniqueness of your own responses and ways you've survived.
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Build internal and external resources to better support your healing to help us begin to create an internal sense of safety.
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Heal the trauma using the body and integrating it so the past stays in the past and you can live your life fully.
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Sexual abuse and trauma explicitly violates our own boundaries. Together, we'll explore your relationship to boundaries and understand how to improve them to feel safer in your relationships with self and others. ​
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Build our relationship to create a safe container to share your story and the vulnerable parts of yourself with me. I always want you to know and feel that it is your choice on what you share with me.
How we'll work together
FAQ
1. What counts as sexual abuse or trauma?
Sexual abuse is any unwanted or non-consensual sexual behavior, contact, or exploitation forced on someone. Some examples include:
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Any sexual contact without consent (touching, fondling, oral, vaginal, or anal sex)
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Being pressured, tricked, or threatened into sexual activity
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Sexual contact with someone who cannot consent (minors, intoxicated, unconscious, or disabled)
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Sexual harassment (sexual comments, jokes, repeated unwanted advances)
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Being forced or pressured to view pornography
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Being made to perform sexual acts for money, favors, or survival (sexual exploitation)
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Incest (sexual contact by a family member or caregiver)
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Digital sexual abuse (sharing sexual images or messages without consent)
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Voyeurism (someone watching or recording sexual activity without permission)
If you've experienced any of the above, know it is not your fault and healing is possible. Reach out to learn more how we can work together.
2. Can we talk or process other experiences unrelated to my sexual trauma?
Yes! It is my goal to make space for all of you in therapy. In working with survivors, there is an understanding how these experiences deeply impact so many areas of life AND you are more than a survivor. You are a complex being and all of you is welcome in our work together. I look forward to getting to know all of you!
3. How long will this work take?
Unfortunately, I have to give the worst answer - it depends! Since this type of trauma is physical and relational, it typically isn't the quick fix we're looking for. I know, healing sucks. When we start our work together, our first few sessions are understanding your goals for therapy and planning how our work will achieve those goals. This work is hard, but meaningful and clients typically share they can begin to feel a difference in the first couple of months of working together. Reach out to learn more!
